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The Art & Science of Developing the Therapeutic Self

By Aayushi Gala, Therapist in Training

As a therapist in training, one of the most profound aspects of my journey has been the evolution of my therapeutic identity. Transitioning from theoretical frameworks to discovering my own style felt both exciting and daunting. This post delves into how I began weaving my own reality and values into my approach, how invaluable feedback from mentors helped shape my path, and what it feels like to slowly grow into the role of a therapist.

Integrating Personal Experience into Therapeutic Approach

Early on, I saw therapy as a set of structured tools and techniques—an organized path to guide clients through their challenges. But as I continued my training, I realized that therapy isn’t one-size-fits-all. The experiences and insights I bring as an individual shape my sessions in unique ways.

For example, embodying empathy goes beyond listening; it involves nonverbal communication, emotional attunement, and creating a safe space for clients to feel seen and heard. In practice, this might look like maintaining soft eye contact, nodding to show understanding, or mirroring a client’s tone when responding. These subtle cues convey warmth and presence, encouraging clients to open up and share vulnerable parts of their story. By being attentive to both what is said and unsaid, I aim to create an environment of trust and understanding, which often leads to deeper conversations and meaningful breakthroughs.

Rather than adhering to a fixed style, my therapeutic voice began emerging as a blend of who I am and what my clients need. This realization helped me feel more grounded and authentic, making therapy more personal and impactful.

Feedback and Mentorship as Catalysts for Growth

The guidance I received from supervisors and mentors has been pivotal in shaping my therapeutic identity. Constructive feedback pushed me to question and refine my approach. One mentor encouraged me to embrace silence as a powerful tool, teaching me that holding space can be as meaningful as any advice. These insights were humbling but incredibly enriching, helping me break out of preconceived notions and lean into my strengths. With every piece of feedback, I felt closer to finding my unique voice as a therapist, a blend of structure and intuition tailored to each client’s needs.

Growing into the Role: Embracing Self-Reflection

Finding my therapeutic voice has been a process of self-reflection and discovery, which still continues. Self-reflection involves practices like journaling about sessions, discussing challenging moments in supervision, or asking myself questions such as, What went well? What could I have done differently? It’s through these reflections that I’ve identified patterns, celebrated successes, and addressed areas for improvement.

For example, after a particularly emotional session, I might write about how I felt during the interaction and consider whether those emotions impacted my responses. This practice helps me remain self-aware and ensures I’m fully present for my clients in the future.

Building a therapeutic identity isn’t about having all the answers but about staying open to growth and evolving with each experience. This journey of becoming a therapist means continuously integrating feedback, reflecting on lessons, and adapting to meet the unique needs of clients.

A Voice Shaped by Growth

The journey to finding my voice as a therapist is ongoing, shaped by personal experiences, client interactions, and mentorship. This evolving identity has helped me connect with clients more authentically, blending knowledge with empathy. For anyone entering the field, know that it’s a path of growth that embraces both the head and the heart, creating a therapeutic style as unique as you are.

Tip for Therapists in Training

  • Let your personality shine: My curiosity and calm demeanor have naturally influenced my therapeutic style. I find that sharing relatable analogies or personal insights (when appropriate) helps clients feel more comfortable and understood.
  • Embrace feedback: Mentorship is a chance to explore different styles, try new approaches, and refine your personal therapeutic identity.
  • Reflect often: Journaling, peer discussions, and self-assessment are excellent ways to engage in reflection. Be patient with yourself—developing a therapeutic identity is a lifelong process.

This winter Aayushi is co-facilitating Food, Freedom & Firsts, a virtual, low-fee six-week group for BIPOC undergrads looking support with their relationships to food, creating healthy habits and engaging in self-care while living independently. Find out more and sign up for an intake at bit.ly/FoodFreedom2025